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I have a little confession: the first book I fell head over heels for was a self-help book. Yep, you heard that right. And honestly, I doubt it’ll ever grace the reading list of any book club out there. (Though, with Detention, you never know!)
The book is Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller, and it’s all about understanding love—how we find it, how we keep it, and why we sometimes fumble along the way. In my culture, admitting you’re looking for love feels a bit taboo. Joining a dating app? Practically scandalous. But here’s the thing: this book makes love less of a mystery and more of a science.
Amir and Rachel break down why we behave the way we do in relationships. There’s a reason you posted that thirst trap, why you keep blocking and unblocking that same person, or why your partner of five years casually announced, “I’m moving abroad,” without discussing where that leaves the two of you.
According to the book, we all fall into one of four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, secure, or disorganized. Once you figure out yours, you can better navigate relationships—learning who to steer clear of and who might just be the right fit for your emotional needs.
Once is Never Enough
I revisit this book every time I meet someone new, just to refresh my memory and keep my eyes wide open for the red (or green) flags. But hey, not every day is a “boy-problems” kind of day.
On other days, I dive into sci-fi, narrative nonfiction, or a juicy mystery. And lately, I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone thanks to the Detention Book Club. Case in point: our next session on January 13th is all about Doppelganger by Naomi Klein, and I couldn’t be more excited to dive in.
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